I wish I could tell you that I’m killing it at dating right now, but the truth is I’m still terrified I’ll always be living under the shadow of my rape….
the best thing we can do when we hear someone use them to reinforce harmful stereotypes is to talk about it.
I think many women & men are opposed to sexual images in pubic forums. Since female arousal is not as obvious as male arousal, its not as suggestive of the sex act as an erect penis is..
- Being white doesn’t automatically make you a racist.
- Being a man doesn’t automatically make you a sexist.
- Being a heterosexual doesn’t automatically make you homophobic.
- Being cisgendered doesn’t automatically make you transphobic.
- Existing as a part of the majority does not automatically make you an oppressor to the minority.
It also does not excuse you from stepping in when others are..
Perhaps not a bad person intentionally, but you are clearly privileged if you think you have the right to choose one body type over another. You are - without being aware of it - oppressing other body types by purposely going out of your way to not date and/or have sex with them. I know you’re probably not going to like what I’m saying, but it’s the truth.
I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with women who are skinny, but I do have to question the attraction the men claim to have. I believe many of these men are closet homosexuals, fatophobes, and in some cases; pedophiles. i say this because, there is no way on god’s green earth, that a sane grown-ass man would want anything to do with a woman who does not have hips, ass, or tits. It’s either you think she looks like a little girl, or you think she looks like a boy. Other times men are just so hateful and afraid of big beautiful women, that they will punish themselves before admitting that we are sexy. This is really no different than if I were to not have sex with a black man, because I “didn’t find him attractive.” That’s like saying “you don’t appeal to me because you aren’t human.” Do you know how racist that is, and wrong? It’s disgusting. By choosing one person over another, for whatever reason it may be, you are insulting the oppressed. Every time you walk around town with a thin woman, you are insulting fat women.
I think because you asked this, you are willing to change. You know that what you’re doing is wrong. I have some news for you though: We are here, we’re growing in numbers and in weight, and 10 years from now we will be the norm. Nobody except perverts, liars, and fetishists are going to want to be with skin and bones. I sincerely hope you find yourself before that happens.
She said dudes that don’t like fat girls are either gay or pedophiles
this is the stupidest thing i have ever read
LOL omg. Did this person really just try to say that you’re not a woman if you’re skin and bones?
As long as you identify as a woman. You are a woman. Regardless of your size, and curves (or lack thereof).
Heaven forbid people have a preference.
It doesn’t make them crazy. It’s just their mother fucking preference. Some people prefer girls who are tiny. Others prefer girls who are bigger. Some people don’t like huge boobs. Others love them.
Some like tiny butts others don’t.
Some people like their girls short as hell others like them to be tall af.
Who the fuck are you to try to shame someone for what they find aesthetically pleasing?
“Every time you walk around town with a thin woman, you are insulting fat women. “
The fuck did I just read here? OK, let me get this right. I need to give a shit about possibly offending people if I walk around town with a thin woman? But what if I walk around town with a bigger woman, won’t that offend thin women? Or wouldn’t either offend gay men who would rather I walk around town with another male? Or what of lesbian women who would rather the woman I’m walking around with be walking around instead with another woman?
Let’s widen that even further. If I’m walking around town alone, would my long hair offend people who think it’s wrong for men to have long hair? Or maybe my beard offends people who don’t like beards.
I’m going to be honest here, I don’t give a second thought to who I may offend by doing what I want to do, what I am legally allowed to do. If you get offended because I walk around town with someone like, oh let’s just say the wonderful bi-bibirdie here, then that’s your own fault. It’s not my fault, not in the least. I’ll be honest, if I knew you were one of the people offended then I would ABSOLUTELY enjoy offending you.
In fact you ARE saying there’s something wrong with skinny women - you are saying that they are essentially unattractive to men unless those men are closet homosexuals, pedophiles and fatophobes (is that a thing? Or are you inventing words to justify yourself?). You’re saying that to attract “normal” and “well adjusted” men, they need to be large because only perverts and gay people (huh?!) are going to be attracted to skinny women. Way to contradict yourself, and way to go offending so many people with such a wonderful economy of words.
Would I, as a white man, be offended if a black woman said she wasn’t aesthetically attracted to me because I’m white? No, not really. It’s not going to hurt my feelings any more than if a woman were to say to me she doesn’t find guys with long hair aesthetically pleasing.
Honest to the tumblr gods, your post, fatwarriorgodess, is one of the more shameful and illogical rants I’ve seen on this site, and that’s saying a lot because tumblr is full of dumbasses spouting off every second of the day.
Again, congratulations for lowering the idiocy bar.
Even I need ice for that burn.
While T-Media’s response is well thought out - and poignant - this woman lost me at the very beginning.
You do ABSOLUTELY have the right to choose one body type over another. That’s choice. That is what a diversified culture does - choose what pleases them.
One not-so-skinny girl to another (assumption made based on your tumblr name), this reads like a bitter angsty letter written by someone so utterly unhappy with themselves that they denigrate what they strive to be like.
Lioness I think you hit the nail right on the head.
This is what Im on about, you saw him repressing me..